I admit it…I’m still insecure. It’s just part of the journey. Too old and too much time wasted and opportunities squandered because of it. It’s one of the things that holds us back. I am getting better, though, day by day. Using what I’ve learned,  and keep learning to this day.

There’s hope. Ways around this, putting the insecurities to bed. Sure, they’ll awaken from time to time, but we need to learn how to deal, cope, CONTROL. We need to want  change and take the steps we need to. Reach out if necessary.

First, we need to find out what caused this in the first place. Was it abuse, trauma, or bullying? Need to find out what the root cause is. It may be hard to face, but we need to look in the mirror, inward, and be honest with ourselves.

Secondly, we need to give ourselves more credit. No talking down to ourselves. I’m so guilty of this, but again, getting better every day. Replace the negative talk with positive talk. Also, we need to focus on our strengths and what we’re good at, even if you think it’s not a big deal.

Next, we are individuals. We are special.  There is no need to compare to someone else. You can’t worry about others and what they have, what they look like, etc. You are you. Make it the best you. Be an example. You’re making others first, and that’s backward. We are first.

Try surrounding yourself with others who support and uplift you. Like-minded people who will join and help on the journey. People that you enjoy talking to, hanging out with, share things. Negativity will only attract negativity, so obviously,  positivity will attract more positivity. And that’s what we want.

Remember,  we can start small. One day at a time. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Set goals, no matter how small. Every little step matters. Then, the little steps become bigger and bigger. Before you know it, you’re stomping that negativity right out, paving the road you want to be on. A better life, a better you.

Confidence comes after you act. Don’t wait until you’re ready or for the perfect time. No such thing. You will never be ready… never. Just do it even though you’re unsure or afraid. Put all that to sleep. – JR