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I admit it…I’m still insecure. It’s just part of the journey. Too old and too much time wasted and opportunities squandered because of it. It’s one of the things that holds us back. I am getting better, though, day by day. Using what I’ve learned, and keep learning to this day.
There’s hope. Ways around this, putting the insecurities to bed. Sure, they’ll awaken from time to time, but we need to learn how to deal, cope, CONTROL. We need to want change and take the steps we need to. Reach out if necessary.
First, we need to find out what caused this in the first place. Was it abuse, trauma, or bullying? Need to find out what the root cause is. It may be hard to face, but we need to look in the mirror, inward, and be honest with ourselves.
Secondly, we need to give ourselves more credit. No talking down to ourselves. I’m so guilty of this, but again, getting better every day. Replace the negative talk with positive talk. Also, we need to focus on our strengths and what we’re good at, even if you think it’s not a big deal.
Next, we are individuals. We are special. There is no need to compare to someone else. You can’t worry about others and what they have, what they look like, etc. You are you. Make it the best you. Be an example. You’re making others first, and that’s backward. We are first.
Try surrounding yourself with others who support and uplift you. Like-minded people who will join and help on the journey. People that you enjoy talking to, hanging out with, share things. Negativity will only attract negativity, so obviously, positivity will attract more positivity. And that’s what we want.
Remember, we can start small. One day at a time. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Set goals, no matter how small. Every little step matters. Then, the little steps become bigger and bigger. Before you know it, you’re stomping that negativity right out, paving the road you want to be on. A better life, a better you.
Confidence comes after you act. Don’t wait until you’re ready or for the perfect time. No such thing. You will never be ready… never. Just do it even though you’re unsure or afraid. Put all that to sleep. – JR
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I’ve might have touched on the subject before, but throughout the years, I had become VERY good at hiding my feelings, comparing myself to a clown…happy on the outside, and sad on the inside. I’ve gotten a lot better, but to be completely honest, there are times when I still do it. Not to deceive, but to protect.
Protect what? Myself from ridicule, embarrassment, and my self-esteem, taking a hit along with other factors. I find myself also doing it to protect others as well, as strange as that sounds. I don’t want my issues, my concerns, my mixed depression and anxiety disorder to affect those around me.
But, as I stated, I’ve gotten a lot better and continue to do so. Sure, some days are better than others, but progress, not perfection. Processing and training my brain to not have to rely on a mask or hide, pretend. Getting better at the struggle of living and being my honest and true self. We shouldn’t have to put on an act for anyone.
So, it is time to take the clown makeup off and stop with the masks. Honesty, reality, and truth of self are the name of the game. Be brave, plow forward learning, getting more knowledge and strength along the way. That’s the way. Get out of the safe zone. Can’t always be raining inside all of the time.
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For a long time, I’ve been self-conscious, ashamed of my looks, the way I sound, and never liked pictures or videos of myself. From a young age, I’ve had low self-esteem, triggered not only by external sources but also by internal sources. Believing the lies others told me and told myself.
Fast forward to adulthood. Same thing. Or at least it used to be. Slowly but surely coming out of my protective shell. Could it be me getting older? Could it just be me not giving a crap anymore? Or is it because I’m letting my guard down more and more and just living life the best way I can?
Life’s a journey, not a race. We need to take our time and reflect. Pick up tools and knowledge along the way to get us to the finish…slow and steady, right? Isn’t that how the story goes? For myself, I finally realized this. The road to bettering yourself isn’t always easy, but at the same time, it’s laid out for you. Why not take advantage.
So not only will I continue to write my ramblings here, but I’ve been posting videos and pictures on the socials. Sometimes, you just have to take the leap. You have to break out of your shell and not be so sheltered. You miss out on so much, letting life pass you by. But remember, slow and steady wins the race.
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Hey guys, I’m just dropping in to say hi and to let you know that a new episode dropped today.
Should be able to find it on your favorite streaming platforms. I appreciate you guys!
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